Beautifully imperfect

I love this short film made by Yasmin Ahmad, commissioned by the government of Singapore; a eulogy given by a woman at her husband's funeral.



"In the end, it is these small things that you remember, little imperfections that make them perfect for you. So, to my beautiful children, I hope one day you too will find life partners who are as beautifully imperfect as your father was to me."

As the advertisement came to close, I just sat stunned in my chair. In just three minutes, this ad summed up relationships beautifully; that it is the beautiful imperfections that make a relationship perfect.

So often in life, we look for perfection in people, and in relationships either consciously or unconsciously.

At an individual level, we have all these criteria of a partner we want. We evaluate people of the opposite gender based on adjectives we have formed in our mind. When in a relationship, it is so easy to find faults and be annoyed by habits of one's partner. We try to change them. We simply tend to forget that imperfections make a person perfect.

When working/living with people, little habits they have annoy us. When people don't do things right, we are irritated. We complain. We label them incompetent. We choose not to give people who are 'untalented' things to do.

When we find mistakes people do, we judge. More often than not, we criticize. We hang out with people who come closest to our definition of perfect. We leave out or leave behind people who are different to ourselves...maybe people who are unkempt, people who speak differently, people who are 'difficult' to handle.

The same thing happens in families. Perhaps because we have no inhibitions among our family members, we don't think twice before expressing our annoyance. We complain, we demand, we cajole them into doing things our way.

Thing is, no one is perfect. No one can be because we are all different. Beauty is perfection in diversity. God created us all individually to be different.

This is how God sees us. We are not perfect but we are beautiful in His sight. Our imperfections make us perfect. How can we then assume God's position and judge or choose people? What right do we have?

Let us see with God's eyes, and feel with His heart.

Little imperfections make people perfect. People are beautifully imperfect.

G3